My sweet boys,
I wish I could tell you with words just how much I love you! But there aren’t enough words.
I wish you could see how my heart is so much bigger since each of you came into my life. I always knew that I wanted to be a mom, but WOW- I had no idea just how in love I would be with a little person that I bring into the world. Each of you have truly changed my life, made me a better, kinder, gentler, more whole- of a person.
If I could make sure that I accomplish ONE thing as your mother, it would be that you never doubt my love for you. Out of everything I teach you, out of everything I do wrong in raising you (despite my best efforts), I want more than anything for you to know that I WILL LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT. There is nothing you could do that would ever make me love you any less.
And that love is a lot. Think of how impossible it would be to try to count the pieces of sand on a beach. That amount isn’t even as big as my love for you. This love grows stronger and stronger as you get older, and it will always be this way.
I want you to know some things:
-Life is hard. It often isn’t fair or just. People you love will hurt your feelings, even break your heart sometimes. But this is because the more you love someone, the more it hurts when they make a mistake. This is how we are designed! Our souls are meant to feel strongly and deeply, for the good and for the bad. Even though life is sometimes really hard and there will be times you question whether everything will be okay, take my word for it: EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS BE OKAY. Just keep going, keep trying.
-You don’t have to be perfect to be a good person. Just do your best! Try to be kind and good. As your mom, I know you best- and you ARE sweet, kind, good, and wonderful!
-Don’t let anybody tell you that boys have to be a certain way. No two boys are the same! You can and SHOULD cry and be vulnerable. You can do the activities you want to do and be passionate about the things that speak to your heart.
-Self-esteem comes from within. No one else can make you feel less or more than you are, unless you let them. You are capable of amazing things, just the way you are. Self-love and self-acceptance is one of the keys to happiness.
-As much as I love you, Heavenly Father and Jesus love you even more! They are always mindful of you and want more than anything for you to be happy and to feel peace. Pray to them every day, and you will be on the right path to peace and joy.
-Women are your equals. In fact, everyone is equal! All races, religions, cultures, and genders, are equal in God’s eyes. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. Treat every girl and woman you come across with gentleness and respect. Even though we want to be treated equally and feel that we are as strong as men, we also want to be taken care of lovingly by the men in our lives.
Each of you are the joy of mine and Daddy’s lives. We are so proud of you! We love you, and we hope that you always know this.
Love forever and ever,
Mommy